I Challenge You, Rebecca Wilder, To a Date with Mr. LVwithLOVE!

UPDATE! Rebecca has ACCEPTED my challenge. Please use the comments section below to suggest activities! I have already secured a professional photographer…

So, there is some 32-year-old chick who blogs about dating and stuff in the Lehigh Valley. She never seems to find luck, but has some good tips and stuff for those who are looking pa nub in all the wrong places….

Her own dates, however, seem not to work out as planned, or are just overall pretty boring.

That being said, I am publicly challenging Miss Rebecca Wilder, e-mail her at singledoutinthevalley@gmail.com, to a date with me, Mr. LVwithLOVE, to show her exactly just how it’s done.

In order to woo her, I am going to include a recent “date” of hers and tell her how I would make it just that much fucking better.

I begin this entry as I return from yet another date. Sigh. Perhaps not the best time to express my feelings about dating, but we know that dating has it’s ups and downs. Don’t worry, nothing bad happened. Actually I had a just fine evening. That’s the problem, it was just … Fine. Boring.

Rebecca, can I call you Becki? I’m going to start out by saying that not only am I open to sharing feelings with you, but I can make sure that not one minute of our date would be boring. I don’t do boring. I can’t. I really strive to be the best and most social (yet polite) gentleman that I assure you we wouldn’t be at a loss for conversation or activity.

No sparks. No excitement. No similarities. Not much to talk about.

I routinely sit at home and play Jeopardy! with the television. Meaning that not only do I have TONS to talk about, but I’m super up on current events and you can tell me all about whatever programmes you watch on television and I will tell you stories about my childhood and I’ll pretend to be really into your hobbies.

I suppose most people slow down as the years go by. Or, maybe some people are just not exciting to begin with. But I find too many people I talk to just don’t have much to actually talk about. They have no hobbies. No passion for anything. I try to find common ground and interests with my dates. I try not to talk too much, but be polite and patient, and ask open ended questions. Conversation starters if you will.

HOBBIES! I called it! Ok, so now we’re getting to the important stuff. Firstly, I have a passion for the arts, art in general, really. I also have a passion for asking you tons of questions about stuff. And I PROMISE to listen to you while trying to think of some way to relate it to me drinking too much. Also, common ground is easy to find. I live here, you live here. You’re a girl. I like girls. I mean, this is already starting great!!!!

Me: So, what did you do this week? Him: Not much. I worked.

Me: Do you have plans for the weekend? Him: No, I guess I might go see my brother.

Me: Oh, that’s nice. What do you guys do? Him: Probably nothing really.

Me: Well, what do you normally do with your friends? Him: I don’t know. Not much.

Becki, it’s obvious that this guy is a douchebag. I mean. I would be responding with telling you not only EXACTLY what I did with my friends, but I’d probably even reenact a few of the memories, possibly pulling a waiter over to serve as my friend Glenn when he instructed me that I should have sex with some girl I just met at the bar, to her face, as he was leaving the bar and her and I were having a conversation about white wine. He’s SOOO classy.

Great. Exciting. So, I guess once your friends get married and leave you behind, you just stop having a personality and life of your own? Like co-dependence.

I guess there are women who will be happy with that life. I know that at my old age of, eh ehm 32, I’m supposed to just settle down and have a family and forget that anything else goes on in the world.

OH, Rebecca you are so silly. Firstly, 32 is the new 22 and I can tell by the way you type that you know how to dance. So, lets just forget about all this drab talk about co-dependence and just start talking about great stuff, like 80s music and Thai food.

I see this all the time. Men and women, you just lay down your arms. Even beautiful young people. Please don’t take this as my disrespect to any of you who may be reading. It is a perfectly fine choice if that’s what is important to you. I am just trying to make a point for myself. Don’t forget, that I too thought it was the natural next step at only 23 to be married. Why not? We were happy. Just don’t think you have to stop living because you find your husband, as I will be sure not to do again.

Sounds like you have a bit of built up resentment here… hmm. Ok, well we can totally just look past this. Hey, I’m a pragmatist at heart, so that means I can really just deal with any situation as it comes. I mean, you’re 32, single and have never been married? That means you’re probably either 1. really picky or 2. insane or 3. have more than three cats.

I’m going to just hedge my bets here and go with 1.

The point I am actually making though is this, if you’re an active person of any age, you need to be with others who are like-minded and outgoing. Unfortunately, once most people get to their late twenties they have paired up, married, had kids and have all but ditched their single friends and lifestyles. So, if you’re outgoing, you have to try to date and interact with others that are too.

In previous entries I have stated that I need to be with someone who gets me. I need someone who shares my interests. That I will not settle for less than engaging emotional, mental and physical attraction. I have also stated that you shouldn’t be exactly alike; Compatible Differences. I completely agree with these concepts. Whole heartedly I do. After tonight, and upon reminiscing about previous dates and relationships, I have this to say: for love’s sake, you better have a lot in common. I find it really difficult to be attracted to someone who doesn’t excite me by having similar thoughts and feelings. What a rush when you have things to talk about! When you understand what the other means!

Ok, I’m with you on this one Beckster! I need a girl who “gets me. ” I mean, sure, I may come off as a total and complete asshole with absolutely no reverence for anyone else. But, that’s not the truth. The truth is that I’m really looking for someone who understands my complete and total lack of understanding of why everyone in the world is basically insane in what they do. I mean, hey if you don’t like my music, we can work through that. But, I think you know what I mean here. I think you’re already “getting me.”

This burden, I fully accept as my own, some of you probably don’t have this particular dating dilemma. It is just that I am interested in a lot of different things. I’m interested in life and I really enjoy being out there experiencing it. I have to be with someone who can appreciate that. Don’t get me wrong, I have plenty of couch time. You know I love to sleep, and it’s been a long time since I stayed out until last call.

I don’t expect a guy to entertain me. I have no trouble whatsoever finding my own entertainment in life, as if you couldn’t already figure that out. But he has to want to do stuff. He has to have passion. Live life with passion! Seriously. We have our entire life ahead of us and if you’re bored with it now, while you’re young and healthy… I don’t even know how to handle that. Most professionals and musicians and actors don’t even get to the level they want to until their thirties. Maybe with my personality I need to date younger guys. I never dated anyone younger than me. What do you think? I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that at all. My Mom is older than my Dad. My best friend is older than her fiancé.

I CAN PLAY GUITAR! I CAN DANCE! I can do tons of shots. TONS of shots. You don’t need to worry about me entertaining you. I mean, just make sure you hold onto my wallet in case the cops come.  I know that you’re sad you’re 30, I’m not quite there yet, so YOU CAN TOTALLY live vicariously through my awesome 20 something body for a few months until I’m 30 too and we both start some awful downhill fall into old age.

What I do know for sure, among all of my meanderings, is that love isreal. It’s worth waiting for and when you find it, you might not know it right away, but you will definitely sense that attraction on all levels. You will want to see and talk to that person again to learn more.

Love is totally real!!! I really feel like we are having a great connection here. I mean, I already know that I want to talk to you again and we haven’t even talked for a first time. This is ridiculous!

I can’t say that about these guys that my friends or the websites have set me up with. They are nice, but I just want to meet someone through the normal course of my life, when someone is not making me. It should feel natural. Our paths cross. We talk. We feel attraction and interest. Then, hopefully one of us will be brave enough to ask the other out before it gets awkward. Source

Look no further, Rebecca! And do not feel the need for anyone else to set you up on a date. I officially challenge you to a date with me, Mr. LVwithLOVE and I will wager that you have the best date of your LIFE OR… something.

I mean, we’ll have to work on some sort of terms, but I’m serious. If you do not have the best date you have ever had, I will agree to your silly little terms and will then post them on this blog.

HOWEVER, IF YOU DO have the best date of your life then you have to be like “I had the best date of my life and this guy is awesome.”

So, in recap, e-mail Rebecca for me, make sure she does this or she can NEVER post again because here I am offering her the world. If she ignores this, I don’t know how she could ever blog again about dating in the Lehigh Valley.

All you have to do to accept is e-mail me at lehighvalleywithlove@gmail.com with your acceptance e-mail and it’s ON LIKE DONKEY KONG!